It’s easy to get caught up in the daily chaos of raising children and honestly, sometimes that can be a good thing. When we had our first baby, the pediatrician told us, “Don’t worry about setting habits right now. You are in survival mode — just do what it takes to get through the day.” It might sound like weird advice, but it was some of the best parenting advice I have ever received. It was a freeing reminder that we just needed to help our child the best way we knew how, minute by minute and hour by hour. If you have a newborn in your house or are dealing with another major change or crisis, I encourage you to lean on God’s strength to love your child as best you can today. He will carry you.
When you are not in the midst of a major life changing situation, you have an incredible opportunity to be strategic in raising your children. Look at Psalm 127 (NIV):
Unless the LORD builds the house, the builders labor in vain.
Unless the LORD watches over the city, the guards stand watch in vain. In vain you rise early and stay up late, toiling for food to eat — for he grants sleep to those he loves.
Children are a heritage from the Lord, offspring a reward from him. Like arrows in the hands of a warrior are children born in one’s youth. Blessed is the man whose quiver is full of them.
They will not be put to shame when they contend with their opponents in court.
The first half of the Psalm gives us the only trustworthy foundation for strategic parenting: God’s help. Strategic parenting isn’t about worrying over the future. Even if the builders are laboring on the house, it’s really God who gets the house built. Even if we are parenting diligently and thoughtfully, it’s God who can transform our children into wise and loving adults.
But we do have a role to play. God has entrusted children to us as a gift, and God wants us to be strategic and intentional in our parenting. Look at what the Psalm compares children to — arrows. Arrows aren’t meant to stay in a quiver forever, and they aren’t meant to be tossed aimlessly into the air. They work best when they are aimed, carefully and attentively, towards the right target.
Here are three gifts God gives us to aim or steer our families. I’ve added some questions beneath each gift for you to think and pray about.
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(looking ahead to see where you want to go and how you want to be remembered)
(evaluating what is best for you and your family)
(making practical plans to turn vision into reality)
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