In the movie Wonder, a boy named August starts 5th grade in a new school. Auggie, as he’s called, is different than the others—he has a facial deformity, and the other students tease or exclude him because of it. Another student, Jack, is faced with a question: Will he be a good friend to Auggie, or will he go along with the crowd and treat him poorly?
The relationship between Jack and Auggie reminds us all of how difficult it is to be a True Friend and how we can be slow to sacrifice on behalf of others. By the end of the movie, we see Jack learn the joy that comes from laying down his own interests for his friend. As Jack is kind to him, Auggie begins to show more of his personality, and the boys come to have a sweet friendship.
Jack and Auggie experienced a profound truth about friendship: Real friendships start when we are willing to sacrifice to stand by each other. John 15:12 says, “My command is this: Love each other as I have loved you.” A True Friend knows that others deserve to be loved because of the way God loves them.
The Bible, too, tells a story of a great friendship. David, the shepherd boy who became a great king of Israel, would have been killed long before becoming king if it weren’t for his best friend Jonathan. 1 Samuel 18:1 tells us, “Jonathan was bound to David in close friendship, and loved him as much as he loved himself” (Christian Standard Bible). Jonathan was a True Friend, who gave David his armor, his weapons, and even his right to the throne.
Qualities of a True Friend
Being a True Friend isn’t just about being nice. True Friends stand by their friends, as well as stand up for them. They are honest with each other, talking about areas in their life where they are struggling so that they can help each other grow (Proverbs 27:17). They keep each other on track, choosing to “speak the truth in love” when a friend is falling off the path that leads to righteousness (Ephesians 4:15).
And True Friends commit to each other, prioritizing those relationships when things are going well and when it is difficult or even awkward. Martin Luther King Jr. once said, “The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy.”
Praise God That Jesus Is Our Ultimate Friend
Friendship is not easy, and modeling it to our boys will come with moments of regret. But praise God that we can always point them to a better example than ourselves—a perfect example who reflected True Friendship in his humanity and is still interceding for us today.
John 15:12–13 says, “My command is this: Love each other as I have loved you. Greater love has no one than this: to lay down one’s life for one’s friends.” Jesus did not merely say he loved his friends—he acted on it. He didn’t call us his friends because loving us was easy. He allowed himself to bear pain and punishment on the cross on our behalf, showcasing the ultimate sacrifice for a friend and laying down of his actual life to save us.
Boys are primarily experiential learners, and the best way we can teach them this virtue is by finding ways to live it out in front of them. This month, what are ways you can love your spouse or best friend that will show your sons that sacrifice is an expression of love?
Ways to Teach True Friendship in Your Home This Month.
Virtue Calendar: The True Friend
- Use the calendar activities and learn the verses about the True Friend together.
- As a family, watch the movie Wonder or another favorite movie about friendship and then discuss it together.
- Ask your boys about their friendships in ways that lead them to not think as much about what people do for them as what they do for other people. For example, when you see them after school, ask them who they talked to at lunch that day or if they had a chance to help a friend.
- Show them what it means to be a True Friend by going out of your way to serve your spouse or another friend.
21st Century Dangers Boys Face - A Strategic Parenting Event
In some ways, our kids are safer now than ever; however, there are new serious threats from vaping, social media and online pornography as well new forms of the ongoing threats of sex and drugs.
Please join us as we hear from a panel of experts in the law enforcement, medical, child psychology, and youth ministry fields — to better understand how we can equip our children to face 21st Century dangers.
- Amy Weirich - Shelby County District Attorney
- Larissa Gregory - MAEdPsych - Social and Emotional Learning
- Kevin McQuillen - Youth Pastor - Second Presbyterian Church
- Stephen Threlkeld - MD - Infectious Disease Physician
|Event Date||Tuesday, November 12 2019 6:30 pm|
|Event End Date||Tuesday, November 12 2019 7:30 pm|
|Location||Fellowship Hall at Presbyterian Day School|
7 Virtues of Manhood Breakfast - The Pacesetter
This year we want to give boys a chance to learn more about what it means to be a man while spending time with an adult that is teaching them about manhood. So, we are hosting a monthly breakfast focusing on the 7 Virtues of Manhood at school.
Our 7 Virtues of Manhood Breakfasts are for elementary grade boys (1-6) and their adult hosts.
Because of the nature of this breakfast, each boy must have an adult host in order to attend. If one adult is going to be hosting multiple boys, please enter them as part of the group registration, even if that person has already registered with another boy. For families with special circumstances, please reach out to me and one of the school based mentors will host your son, or we can discuss another option.
Meal OptionsBreakfast: $5 for Chick-Fil-A Chicken Minis and Coffee, Orange Juice, or Milk
|Event Date||Friday, January 10 2020 7:00 am|
|Event End Date||Friday, January 10 2020 7:55 am|
|Cut off date||Thursday, January 9 2020 3:00 pm|
|Location||Fellowship Hall at Presbyterian Day School|
Breakfast with Boys in Fellowship Hall
You will sit with groups from your son’s grade as much as possible.
Hear what the virtue means from a 6th grade boy
Learn the virtue in more detail through a 7 minute lesson from one of our leaders
Spend the majority of the time working around the table with age appropriate questions and activities
Boys Dismissed to Chapel
Adult hosts are welcome to join us for chapel from 8:00-8:30 in the sanctuary or depart after breakfast.