Howard Graham
Howard Graham

Howard Graham

Howard Graham is the Chaplain at PDS and is the Executive Director of the Building Boys, Making Men program. He is married to Kimberley and they have a girl and three boys. He can be reached at hgraham@pdsmemphis.org

Building Boys, Making Men is a PDS-created program designed to give boys a godly vision and definition of manhood. We believe that boys should be intentionally taught about authentic manhood and have a biblical framework for making wise and edifying choices during their teenage years and beyond. The definition of manhood we teach our boys:

A real man glorifies God by seeking an adventurous life of purpose and passion as he protects and serves others.

This year we want to give boys a chance to learn more about what it means to be a man while spending time with their dad or favorite guy. So, we are hosting a monthly breakfast focusing on the 7 Virtues of Manhood at school.

Our 7 Virtues of Manhood Breakfasts are for elementary grade boys (1–6) and their dad or favorite guy.

The format will be as follows:

  • Start at 7:15 in the fellowship hall and enjoy Chick-Fil-A breakfast around the tables, sitting with boys and men from your son’s grade as much as possible.
  • Hear what the virtue means from a 6th grade boy
  • Learn the virtue in more detail through a 7 minute lesson from one of our leaders
  • Spend the majority of the time working around the table with your boys with age appropriate questions and activities.
  • End by 7:55

The boys will be dismissed to chapel from the breakfast. Dads and favorite guys are welcome to join us for chapel from 8:00–8:30 in the sanctuary or depart after breakfast.

Register for The True Friend Breakfast - Friday, Sept. 6

Dates for the year:

  • Sept 6 - True Friend
  • Oct 18 - Humble Hero
  • Nov 1 - Servant Leader
  • Jan 10 - Pacesetter
  • February 7 - Bold Adventurer
  • March 20 - Noble Knight
  • April 3 - Faithful Follower

Because of the nature of this breakfast, each boy must have a male adult host in order to attend. It is okay for one dad to bring more than just his son(s). A dad, grandad, or family friend can host multiple boys including friends. For families with special circumstances, please reach out to me and one of the school based mentors will host your son or we can discuss another option.

We look forward to seeing you September 6th.

Howard

Wednesday, June 12, 2019

New Site Launch: Strategic Dads

We have created a new site to serve all types of dads looking for help in raising their families. We have partnered with other authors from around the country to give practical advice, ideas and wisdom for dads.

Check out the site here:

https://www.strategicdads.org/

Our children are an incredible gift from God. We not only have the privilege of fulfilling part of our purpose in life as we raise them—we also get the benefit of relying on our Heavenly Father as he helps us raise them. There is nothing greater than knowing your purpose and living it out the fullest. To be what God intended you to be.

We want to invite you to check out this pilot version of our site to see what you think. If you like it, please sign up to get emails (at the bottom of the main page) so you can get new articles delivered to your inbox. Please also share it with friends locally or across the country. During this pilot phase, we’re relying on feedback and engagement from dads to inform our national launch in the fall.

Wednesday, June 12, 2019

The Joy Of Being A Dad

We have so many reasons to be grateful. Let’s celebrate this week.

The moment I met my first child, I specifically remember thinking, “What a gift! What a miracle!” I was blown away by the way God uses nature and humans to create new humans—little miracles. “God you made that little child through us…wow!”

But my second thought was, “Oh God, you are entrusting me with this miracle? Me? I can’t even be trusted to drive a car well, and you are giving me a boy? You love my wife and me so much that you are giving us another human to love and raise?”

I was so excited to hold him and to introduce him to our friends and family in the waiting room. That moment was like no other moment I had ever had. And then God kept giving us more miracles…some we planned (we thought) and some (gulp) total surprises. As dads, there are so many things to be grateful for as we consider what we have been given. This Father’s Day, I encourage you to celebrate being a dad for these three reasons:

Last month, PDS had a parent seminar on social media, smartphones, and other technology for kids. Parents raised great questions, and many of the best solutions came from other parents. This blog is our attempt to share the best of that meeting with you and to answer some of the follow-up questions.

The Problem We All Face

By God’s design, our kids desire community and connection—and in their purest forms, smart phones and social media can help create community and connect people. We see that good as parents, but we also see the dangers in technology. We’re all in the struggle to figure out the right thing for our children based on their age, their maturity, and God’s unique design of them.

Tuesday, April 02, 2019

Do You Know How Loved You Are?

How This Month’s Virtue Helps You Lead Your Family

“We love because he first loved us.” 1 John 4:19

This month, our virtue is Faithful Follower — the most important of all our virtues. Faithful Followers know they are loved by God, and they respond by following God’s commands to love God and love others. In other words, this virtue gives us the purpose and power to live out all of the other virtues as parents, families, and individuals.

BUILDING BOYS, MAKING MEN

Supporting the Program

Donate:

By donating to Building Boys, Making Men you are not only helping us share with the boys at PDS but also boys all around the city in under resourced communities who would not otherwise have access to this material. Your donation not only helps us share the Gospel with fathers in Memphis, but all over the country!

The Building Boys, Making Men budget is totally separate than the PDS operating budget. The program relies fully on outside donations from people like you!

If you have any questions, would like more information or would like to donate please contact Howard Graham.

Pray:

We desire our ministry to be covered in prayer, not just by us but from everyone around us! Please join us in praying for…

  • Our leaders/Mentors that they would be filled with grace and truth that they can then impart on our boys
  • Wisdom as we make moves to reach people outside the 4 walls of PDS
  • The city of Memphis as a whole

Do you have a prayer request? If you have a prayer request that you desire a whole community to pray for or just one person to pray with you please contact Howard Graham.

Get Involved:

Do you have a gift for writing, editing, ability to lead small groups or any other skill that would strengthen the mission of Building Boys, Making Men? We would love to speak with you about how you could be an asset to the program!

If this is you please contact Howard Graham.

 

 

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Wednesday, March 06, 2019

Facing Life & Lions with Honor

What It Means to Be a Noble Knight

When you were a child, was there an area where you really struggled to do what was right? Did you normally obey the first time you were asked, or did you have to make a mistake before learning to do what was right?

This month, our virtue is Noble Knight. Being a Noble Knight means living with honor and integrity—in other words, knowing what’s right and doing it even when it’s tough. A Noble Knight pursues what is right and just.

What were some of your most memorable adventures as a kid? How do your kids’ adventures compare to yours?

According to an article published by the Washington Post in 2015, “There’s Never Been a Safer Time to Be a Kid in America.” Yet, even with greater safety, most parents allow their kids to explore less and have less independence than kids in previous generations. Is this focus on safety really helping our kids, or do we need to loosen our grip on our children in order to help grow into adults who take healthy risks?

Our February virtue is “Bold Adventurer.” The basic definitions of “bold” and “adventurer” involve taking risks.

Strategic Dads University

We are grateful for the participation we had this week in this semester’s first session of Strategic Dads University. As promised, we wanted to make the outline and resources available to the participants and to all parents.

Here is the outline with highlights and embedded resources.

Wednesday, January 23, 2019

Parenting with Purpose

What are your parenting goals?

 

It’s easy to get caught up in the daily chaos of raising children and honestly, sometimes that can be a good thing. When we had our first baby, the pediatrician told us, “Don’t worry about setting habits right now. You are in survival mode — just do what it takes to get through the day.” It might sound like weird advice, but it was some of the best parenting advice I have ever received. It was a freeing reminder that we just needed to help our child the best way we knew how, minute by minute and hour by hour. If you have a newborn in your house or are dealing with another major change or crisis, I encourage you to lean on God’s strength to love your child as best you can today. He will carry you.

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VIRTUE OF THE MONTH
The True Friend

Stands Up, Stands By

● Displays compassion and kindness
● Encourages his classmates
● Shares what he has
● Honors his promises
● Looks at the heart of others
● Serves and helps those around him
● Tells the truth
● Shares his emotions
● Loves all of his neighbors
● Stands by and stands up for his classmates

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