Displaying items by tag: Building Boys, Making Men

Over the past weeks, we have explored how to help our children grow up like Jesus—“in wisdom and stature, and in favor with God and man” (Luke 2:52). We have seen how to help our kids grow in wisdom and stature. Now we turn our focus to growing in favor with God and man.

 

This is the second article in a three part series on helping our children grow in wisdom, stature, and favor with God and man (Luke 2:52).

As we continue our series on growing to be like Jesus in wisdom, stature, and favor with God and man (Luke 2:52), this article focuses on what it means to grow in stature. You can find the introduction to this series here, and the article on wisdom here.

Quick—think of someone you admire. What four or five attributes do you admire about them?

Maybe you thought of their talents or skills—or even their strength or their intelligence. But it’s likely most of the things you thought of have to do with character.

We should think about our kids in a similar way. We want our kids to grow physically and develop skills in academics, arts, and sports, is that really what we want our kids to be known for? I think we want our children to be known for their character—for being brave or kind or wise.

Growing in stature means developing physically and developing a reputation. As a parent which part of growing in stature can you have the biggest impact on as you spend time with them and shape them? Certainly not height! And while you can have some impact on the skills your children develop, you can have a huge impact on the development of their character.

Thursday, September 05, 2019

The True Friend - Stand Up, Stand By

We all love having friends, but are we good at being friends?

Think back to your best friends when you were in elementary school or middle school. What do you remember about those friendships? Can you remember times when you really needed a friend and someone stood by you? Can you remember a time when a friend stood up for you when no one else did? What about the time that a friend stood up to you when you were doing the wrong thing?

 

This is the first article in a three part series on helping our children grow in wisdom, stature, and favor with God and man (Luke 2:52).

I recently read an article about how artificial intelligence will transform so many things that the entire way schools teach children must change. The article argued that most of what is done in the workplace will soon be done by machines and robots. If artificial intelligence can provide most of the knowledge and skills traditionally taught in schools, the author suggests, the most important thing we can teach is character. Skills and information might become irrelevant, but character is essential to navigating every part of history—even the years ahead of us.

“‘I prayed for this child, and the LORD has granted me what I asked of him. So now I give him to the LORD. For his whole life he will be given over to the LORD.’ And he worshiped the LORD there.”
1 Samuel 1:27–28 (NIV)

“The only thing that will make growing up psychologically safe for our sons is for them to know that we value them and that we love them, and that we have every confidence that they will grow naturally into good men.”
Raising Cain: Protecting the Emotional Life of Boys

I am a boy mom; I have three of them. Even now that I also have a daughter, I still consider myself pretty much a boy mom. And since the day my oldest was born 12 years ago, I have known in my core that there is something immeasurable about the power of a strong mother-son bond. In fact, a strong mother-son bond is now measurably found to improve brain growth in the areas of memory and learning, to decrease levels of depression, to increase self-esteem, and to help boys build empathy and a high level of emotional intelligence. This is a powerful and beautiful bond meant to facilitate our precious boys to become kind, strong, and godly men. So we know the bond is there. We know the bond is important.

Here are four ways my kids advised me to help make the irreplaceable mother-son bond stronger.

Last month, PDS had a parent seminar on social media, smartphones, and other technology for kids. Parents raised great questions, and many of the best solutions came from other parents. This blog is our attempt to share the best of that meeting with you and to answer some of the follow-up questions.

The Problem We All Face

By God’s design, our kids desire community and connection—and in their purest forms, smart phones and social media can help create community and connect people. We see that good as parents, but we also see the dangers in technology. We’re all in the struggle to figure out the right thing for our children based on their age, their maturity, and God’s unique design of them.

Tuesday, April 02, 2019

Do You Know How Loved You Are?

How This Month’s Virtue Helps You Lead Your Family

“We love because he first loved us.” 1 John 4:19

This month, our virtue is Faithful Follower — the most important of all our virtues. Faithful Followers know they are loved by God, and they respond by following God’s commands to love God and love others. In other words, this virtue gives us the purpose and power to live out all of the other virtues as parents, families, and individuals.

Wednesday, March 06, 2019

Facing Life & Lions with Honor

What It Means to Be a Noble Knight

When you were a child, was there an area where you really struggled to do what was right? Did you normally obey the first time you were asked, or did you have to make a mistake before learning to do what was right?

This month, our virtue is Noble Knight. Being a Noble Knight means living with honor and integrity—in other words, knowing what’s right and doing it even when it’s tough. A Noble Knight pursues what is right and just.

Tuesday, February 04, 2020

Fear Is Not An Option - For Adults

Let’s learn not to fear together and then let’s teach our kids to grow to be fearless too.

Here is what God tells us about fear.

Wednesday, January 23, 2019

Parenting with Purpose

What are your parenting goals?

 

It’s easy to get caught up in the daily chaos of raising children and honestly, sometimes that can be a good thing. When we had our first baby, the pediatrician told us, “Don’t worry about setting habits right now. You are in survival mode — just do what it takes to get through the day.” It might sound like weird advice, but it was some of the best parenting advice I have ever received. It was a freeing reminder that we just needed to help our child the best way we knew how, minute by minute and hour by hour. If you have a newborn in your house or are dealing with another major change or crisis, I encourage you to lean on God’s strength to love your child as best you can today. He will carry you.

VIRTUE OF THE MONTH
The Faithful Follower

Is Loved by God

● Gives up control of his life to Christ
● Lives his life faithfully in response to the gospel
● Saved by grace
● Leads a joyful life
● Lives with God’s promises in mind
● Is completely committed
● Studies God’s Word

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