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This is the second article in a three part series on helping our children grow in wisdom, stature, and favor with God and man (Luke 2:52).

As we continue our series on growing to be like Jesus in wisdom, stature, and favor with God and man (Luke 2:52), this article focuses on what it means to grow in stature. You can find the introduction to this series here, and the article on wisdom here.

Quick—think of someone you admire. What four or five attributes do you admire about them?

Maybe you thought of their talents or skills—or even their strength or their intelligence. But it’s likely most of the things you thought of have to do with character.

We should think about our kids in a similar way. We want our kids to grow physically and develop skills in academics, arts, and sports, is that really what we want our kids to be known for? I think we want our children to be known for their character—for being brave or kind or wise.

Growing in stature means developing physically and developing a reputation. As a parent which part of growing in stature can you have the biggest impact on as you spend time with them and shape them? Certainly not height! And while you can have some impact on the skills your children develop, you can have a huge impact on the development of their character.

Thursday, September 05, 2019

The True Friend - Stand Up, Stand By

We all love having friends, but are we good at being friends?

Think back to your best friends when you were in elementary school or middle school. What do you remember about those friendships? Can you remember times when you really needed a friend and someone stood by you? Can you remember a time when a friend stood up for you when no one else did? What about the time that a friend stood up to you when you were doing the wrong thing?

 

This is the first article in a three part series on helping our children grow in wisdom, stature, and favor with God and man (Luke 2:52).

I recently read an article about how artificial intelligence will transform so many things that the entire way schools teach children must change. The article argued that most of what is done in the workplace will soon be done by machines and robots. If artificial intelligence can provide most of the knowledge and skills traditionally taught in schools, the author suggests, the most important thing we can teach is character. Skills and information might become irrelevant, but character is essential to navigating every part of history—even the years ahead of us.

This year we want to give boys a chance to learn more about what it means to be a man while spending time with an adult that is teaching them about manhood. So, we are hosting a monthly breakfast focusing on the 7 Virtues of Manhood at school.

Our 7 Virtues of Manhood Breakfasts are for elementary grade boys (1-6) and their adult hosts.

The format will be as follows:

  • Start at 7:15 in the fellowship hall and enjoy Chick-fil-A breakfast around the tables, while sitting with others from your son’s grade as much as possible.
  • Hear what the virtue means from a 6th grade boy
  • Learn the virtue in more detail through a 7 minute lesson from one of our leaders
  • Spend the majority of the time working around the table with your boys with age appropriate questions and activities
  • End by 7:55

The boys will be dismissed to chapel from the breakfast. Adult hosts are welcome to join us for chapel from 8:00-8:30 in the sanctuary or depart after breakfast.

Register for The True Friend Breakfast - Friday, Sept. 6

Dates for the year:

  • Sept 6 - True Friend
  • Oct 18 - Humble Hero
  • Nov 1 - Servant Leader
  • Jan 10 - Pacesetter
  • February 7 - Bold Adventurer
  • March 20 - Noble Knight
  • April 3 - Faithful Follower

Because of the nature of this breakfast, each boy must have an adult host in order to attend. If one adult is going to be hosting multiple boys, please enter them as part of the group registration, even if that person has already registered with another boy. For families with special circumstances, please reach out to me and one of the school based mentors will host your son, or we can discuss another option.

We look forward to seeing you September 6th.

Howard

Published in Elementary News
Wednesday, June 12, 2019

New Site Launch: Strategic Dads

We have created a new site to serve all types of dads looking for help in raising their families. We have partnered with other authors from around the country to give practical advice, ideas and wisdom for dads.

Check out the site here:

https://www.strategicdads.org/

Our children are an incredible gift from God. We not only have the privilege of fulfilling part of our purpose in life as we raise them—we also get the benefit of relying on our Heavenly Father as he helps us raise them. There is nothing greater than knowing your purpose and living it out the fullest. To be what God intended you to be.

We want to invite you to check out this pilot version of our site to see what you think. If you like it, please sign up to get emails (at the bottom of the main page) so you can get new articles delivered to your inbox. Please also share it with friends locally or across the country. During this pilot phase, we’re relying on feedback and engagement from dads to inform our national launch in the fall.

“‘I prayed for this child, and the LORD has granted me what I asked of him. So now I give him to the LORD. For his whole life he will be given over to the LORD.’ And he worshiped the LORD there.”
1 Samuel 1:27–28 (NIV)

“The only thing that will make growing up psychologically safe for our sons is for them to know that we value them and that we love them, and that we have every confidence that they will grow naturally into good men.”
Raising Cain: Protecting the Emotional Life of Boys

I am a boy mom; I have three of them. Even now that I also have a daughter, I still consider myself pretty much a boy mom. And since the day my oldest was born 12 years ago, I have known in my core that there is something immeasurable about the power of a strong mother-son bond. In fact, a strong mother-son bond is now measurably found to improve brain growth in the areas of memory and learning, to decrease levels of depression, to increase self-esteem, and to help boys build empathy and a high level of emotional intelligence. This is a powerful and beautiful bond meant to facilitate our precious boys to become kind, strong, and godly men. So we know the bond is there. We know the bond is important.

Here are four ways my kids advised me to help make the irreplaceable mother-son bond stronger.

Last month, PDS had a parent seminar on social media, smartphones, and other technology for kids. Parents raised great questions, and many of the best solutions came from other parents. This blog is our attempt to share the best of that meeting with you and to answer some of the follow-up questions.

The Problem We All Face

By God’s design, our kids desire community and connection—and in their purest forms, smart phones and social media can help create community and connect people. We see that good as parents, but we also see the dangers in technology. We’re all in the struggle to figure out the right thing for our children based on their age, their maturity, and God’s unique design of them.

Tuesday, April 02, 2019

Do You Know How Loved You Are?

How This Month’s Virtue Helps You Lead Your Family

“We love because he first loved us.” 1 John 4:19

This month, our virtue is Faithful Follower — the most important of all our virtues. Faithful Followers know they are loved by God, and they respond by following God’s commands to love God and love others. In other words, this virtue gives us the purpose and power to live out all of the other virtues as parents, families, and individuals.

Wednesday, March 06, 2019

Facing Life & Lions with Honor

What It Means to Be a Noble Knight

When you were a child, was there an area where you really struggled to do what was right? Did you normally obey the first time you were asked, or did you have to make a mistake before learning to do what was right?

This month, our virtue is Noble Knight. Being a Noble Knight means living with honor and integrity—in other words, knowing what’s right and doing it even when it’s tough. A Noble Knight pursues what is right and just.

What were some of your most memorable adventures as a kid? How do your kids’ adventures compare to yours?

According to an article published by the Washington Post in 2015, “There’s Never Been a Safer Time to Be a Kid in America.” Yet, even with greater safety, most parents allow their kids to explore less and have less independence than kids in previous generations. Is this focus on safety really helping our kids, or do we need to loosen our grip on our children in order to help grow into adults who take healthy risks?

Our February virtue is “Bold Adventurer.” The basic definitions of “bold” and “adventurer” involve taking risks.

VIRTUE OF THE MONTH
The True Friend

Stands Up, Stands By

● Displays compassion and kindness
● Encourages his classmates
● Shares what he has
● Honors his promises
● Looks at the heart of others
● Serves and helps those around him
● Tells the truth
● Shares his emotions
● Loves all of his neighbors
● Stands by and stands up for his classmates

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