Leading Experts Agree
Today, child psychologists agree that, if you want your child to thrive throughout life, start teaching them now that the world does not revolve around them. Instead, teach them to serve others—that will teach them how to find purpose in life.
William Damon, a psychologist and professor at the Stanford School of Education, explained it this way: “People don’t worry about the right things. The biggest problem growing up today is not actually stress; it’s meaninglessness.”
At one of our recent faculty education sessions, Dr. Adam Cox, the author of Cracking The Boy Code, emphasized the idea of purposeful work for boys. Dr. Cox explained how boys want to make things that others will admire. According to Dr. Cox, “Being called to action by doing things for others makes boys feel more important than their age.”
“Boys learn diligence through duty,” writes David Thomas in Wild Things. “Allow him to suffer… service opportunities are a great way to teach boys empathy. Working at a soup kitchen, sponsoring another boy through a relief agency, going on a missions trip, or doing a Scout service project are all great ways to teach compassion and concern for other people. When your boy sees first-hand the sorrow of life, and that he can have a positive impact, his heart will grow along with his self-image.”
Jesus—the Ultimate Servant Leader—Taught the Last Will Be First
Jesus made this clear to two of his closest friends after they insisted he do whatever they ask. Jesus responded by saying, “Whoever wants to become great among you must be your servant, and whoever wants to be first must be slave of all. For even the Son of Man did not come to be served, but to serve, and to give his life as a ransom for many” (Mark 10:43-45 NIV).
The King of Glory came to earth as a suffering servant, laying down his life for his friends (John 15:13), and still his closest followers asked for special privileges. That seems obnoxious, selfish, and even crazy, yet we tend to do the same thing for ourselves and for our children.
The Apostle Paul’s faith in Jesus was strong, and he tried to become more and more a servant leader like Jesus. God inspired Paul to encourage others this way in his letter to the Philippians.
Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others. - Philippians 2:3-4
So, how can we train our kids to be this way? We can follow the insight of Martin Luther King, who famously pointed out that those that did not help the injured man in the story of the Good Samaritan asked the question, “If I stop to help this man, what will happen to me?” But the Good Samaritan reversed the question: “If I do not stop to help this man, what will happen to him?”
What happens if we don’t help our neighbor? And how can we step in to keep that from happening?
It is possible to train our kids to think this way. Try questions like these at dinner or after family devotions:
Who knows someone who is hurting or needs something? How can you help them?
What can you do at school to help others?
What can you do at home to help your siblings or parents?
Is there a neighbor who needs our/your help?
Who was able to help another person today? How did it go?
For more ideas, use this month’s virtue calendar for more ideas(link)
And don’t forget to teach them to play rock-paper-scissors for the backseat!
7 Virtues of Manhood Breakfast - The Pacesetter
This year we want to give boys a chance to learn more about what it means to be a man while spending time with an adult that is teaching them about manhood. So, we are hosting a monthly breakfast focusing on the 7 Virtues of Manhood at school.
Our 7 Virtues of Manhood Breakfasts are for elementary grade boys (1-6) and their adult hosts.
Because of the nature of this breakfast, each boy must have an adult host in order to attend. If one adult is going to be hosting multiple boys, please enter them as part of the group registration, even if that person has already registered with another boy. For families with special circumstances, please reach out to me and one of the school based mentors will host your son, or we can discuss another option.
Meal OptionsBreakfast: $5 for Chick-Fil-A Chicken Minis and Coffee, Orange Juice, or Milk
|Event Date||Friday, January 10 2020 7:00 am|
|Event End Date||Friday, January 10 2020 7:55 am|
|Cut off date||Thursday, January 9 2020 3:00 pm|
|Location||Fellowship Hall at Presbyterian Day School|
Breakfast with Boys in Fellowship Hall
You will sit with groups from your son’s grade as much as possible.
Hear what the virtue means from a 6th grade boy
Learn the virtue in more detail through a 7 minute lesson from one of our leaders
Spend the majority of the time working around the table with age appropriate questions and activities
Boys Dismissed to Chapel
Adult hosts are welcome to join us for chapel from 8:00-8:30 in the sanctuary or depart after breakfast.